About this kōrero
No yelling. No smacking. No shame. Our tūpuna believed pēpi were born tapu and that tamariki learned through love.
Ngākau Atawhai shows us how strength starts in gentleness.
Open Questions
Thinking about this kōrero, you could get whānau or friends to think a bit more about this with these questions:
- How much do you know about colonisation's impact on Māori parenting?
- What strategies do you have to stay calm if a difficult situation happens?
- What other ways can we respond to help our tamariki learn about their mistakes?
Related Resources
It's easy to get frustrated at our tamariki, but changing how we respond is entirely in our hands. Do we need some new whānau tikanga to prevent specific issues? Or do we need to find our mauri tau, our calm and settled selves, for us and our tamariki?
PDFActivity - What kind of parent do you want to be?
Our parenting is inspired by our own childhood. But what kind of childhood do we want our tamariki to have? Use this activity to help you decide.
PDFBooklet about Whānau Tikanga
This more detailed booklet is useful for whānau wanting to choose their tikanga
PDFPrintable Handout about Finding Mauri Tau
Print this handout with some encouraging ideas for whānau and their tamariki to find mauri tau, their calm and settled state
