About this kōrero
Kids break things. They test limits. Our tūpuna knew this wasn’t naughtiness—it was learning. Ngākau Mōhio reminds us to teach, not punish, and help tamariki grow with love and patience.
Open Questions
If you were to share or have this kōrero with someone, either personally or professionally, consider using these patai:
- Have you heard this whakataukī before?
- How do you keep your cool/stay mauri tau when your tamariki act up?
- What mauri tau strategies do you know?
Related Resources
There are several ways to approach challenges with tamariki behaviour - and often its about us as parents and what we need to do to prevent the struggles. Do we need some new whānau tikanga to prevent specific issues? Or do we need to find our mauri tau, our calm and settled selves, for us and our tamariki?
PDFActivity - What kind of parent do you want to be?
Our parenting is inspired by our own childhood. But what kind of childhood do we want our tamariki to have? Use this activity to help you decide.
PDFBooklet about Whānau Tikanga
This more detailed booklet is useful for whānau wanting to choose their tikanga
PDFPrintable Handout about Finding Mauri Tau
Print this handout with some encouraging ideas for whānau and their tamariki to find mauri tau, their calm and settled state
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